As humans, we all do some work and contribute to the society in some or the other manner. But, if we look at our lives - we realize that our learning enables us to do so. Certain people are designated to make & help us learn - and they are our teacher - who heavily impact the shaping of our lives. I have never known a famous person - who doesn't acknowledge his teacher to the making of his life. That's the reason we celebrate 'Teachers Day'. Today, on teachers day - in 66 years old - independent India - I express my gratitudes to all my teachers for helping me become what I am today.
As a child, I also remember reading stories and learning lessons from them. I also remember being told that we can and have to learn from everyone and everything around - like hard-work from ants, politeness from a loaded-tree, the quality of not being influenced by wrongs around from a sandalwood tree (who has snakes living on it) etc. - Hence, everyone and everything that we encounter does contribute to our learning. However, teachers are the greatest enablers of it - Thats the reason why St. Kabir said, "Guru Govind dou khade ... ". Further - acknowledging contributions - I also want to extend this gratitude to everyone (I know) who has contributed to my learning and growth in some manner.
Further - focusing on my recent learnings -
A mother is said to be the first teacher to a child - and the child is the greatest teacher of a human-being.
Probably, thats the reason why the child is said to be the father of the man. Recently, I noticed a book titled 'Raising a Father' written by one of the IIT alumni. My immediate opinion on the title - with knowing nothing about the book - was that it must be related to the growth of an individual - as a human being - after becoming the father. And it immediately made me recollect a lots of stories as mother of a three years old daughter. I would like to share my learnings about my awareness of certain human characteristics, emotions and situations with you all.
- Last year my daughter has started to go to play-school. She was friendly with all her friends, except-one. Daily she used to cry about being hit/beaten by this 'one' chap. - HELPLESSNESS.
- Slowly over-time they became friends. - ADAPTION.
- This year she is in nursery. Again, she has a chap 'two' to cry about. - THE CYCLIC NATURE | REPETITION.
- I can't tell her to hit him back. I tell her to protect herself - which again, I know, may not work. - VALUES | MORALS.
- I told her to call teachers in such situation, but 'two' is usually done with his agenda by then. - PRESENCE OF MIND | SPEED.
- So, I utilize the situation in my favour by motivating her to eat lots of fruits and vegetables and to cooperate while I do her massage - so that she can become strong and nobody can hit her then. - OPPORTUNITY.
- I also gave her some over-confidence by saying, "if you become strong you can blow the other person out" (based on some animation that she was watching). - BOOSTING-SELF | IMAGINATION | CREATIVITY.
- She completed me by saying, "I will become so strong that I will blow 'two' over the clouds and in the rainbow" - very strong imagination, I thought. - BELIEVING | COMPLETION | IMAGINATION | CREATIVITY.
Further - one day in the class - she was taught that there are twelve months in a year.
- She is born on 10th of May and '10' is her favorite number so she rounded '12' off to '10'. - CORRELATING | REACHING NEAREST POINT.
- Then she told her father, "There are '10' month in your ear" - pointing to his ear - probably, as 'EAR' is more known to her as compared to 'YEAR'. - PERCEPTION | CONTEXT.
We used to watch a TV serial - with 'Dr. Ashutosh', named as main character.
- One day while watching photographs of her birth, she asked me, "Mamma, did Dr. Ashutosh, help you getting me out?" - MEMORY | CONNECTING THE DOTS.
I also noticed the feeling of SCARCITY towards play area in rainy season, when she can't be outdoors much.
I also have this interesting observation when a few kids play alone (being INDIVIDUAL) and a few, like my daughter, play in groups (being SOCIAL).
Recently, in a birthday party she experienced snow-spray. That she remembered every-time she met the father of her friend - probably as an expression of gratitude of that experience. So, once he said, I will get the cake and all that your you as well to celebrate your birthday. And my daughter said, "No! my mumma, papa will get it for me". - SELF | SELF-RESPECT.
Until, she started wearing some of the fancy lanhaga (Indian ethnic-wear) frequently - probably, she was accepting her limits, seeing me and others wearing it at times. I noticed it when she told me, "Mumma, I will take all your stuff when I grow up". I noticed GREED | PRAISE | ROLE-MODEL.
Long back, after she learnt to walk and eat by herself - I was frying some of the dry-fruits for her with salt and sugar - that she can munch - I felt TRUE-SATISFACTION - when she came to the kitchen and picked it by herself and did it multiple times.
She loves 'clean-up' song and if she is in good mood, she puts her things exactly in same place they were picked from. - BEING SYSTEMATIC | ORGANIZATION.
Many-times we have to go to her dream world of stories and fairies do do things with/for her. - COMING TO COMMON-MINIMUM.
Many-times one does feel helpless with kids, still one cares - is called UNCONDITIONAL LOVE | SEEING POSITIVES | HAVING NO EXPECTATION | LAW OF KARMA.
And more such moments and learnings - I am sure that similar is experienced by most of us, which unconsciously contributes to our learning and growth - that's why a child is called as the father of the (wo)man.
Recently published in "JOURNEYS 2015" - a magazine published by IIT Madras, Alumni Association.